Tuesday is usually dedicated to our little ones and, even though we are dedicated to creating healthy relationships, we feel it is important to take a pass on the kids for the week. One of the most important lessons we have learned as parents is that our lives as adults bleed into a childhood. For example, when we ask a child at the age of six if his life is tough, we give him/her the message that life is tough. Adults rarely ask kids questions that they don’t already know the answer to. Kids learn this early on. So, before we go messing up anymore kids out there, let’s get our happy on and embrace this new attitude through the commitment to happiness.Read more
Hey Papa? Can you hear me now? Hello? Parenting in the classical sense does not really account for effective communication unless we are talking about maintaining control with an iron fist. Growing up in the old days meant that there was little communication but lots of orders. It’s no wonder we all grew up to be these hippy tree huggers and the pendulum has swung so hard that now we are letting a child’s feelings rule the home.Read more
Nothing stays the same. There are no good old days. Our memory has the tendency to romanticize the past especially when you feel threatened. Life is change and fighting this is the cause of depression and anxiety. We know things have a beginning, middle and end and yet we fight every little evolution. There is no better place to prove this than in watching a child. Kids change daily. Don’t believe us? Check out a picture of your kid when they were born and look at them now.Read more
Everybody knows that we need to protect our kids. Back in the 70s and before, the biggest fears for kids were things like polio, razor blades in apples and the occasional abduction. The 80s were all about kids being kidnapped and someone slipping drugs in their drinks or candies. The 90s and the beginning of the 21 century focused our fears on pedophiles and drugs. Today, Social Media has become the new danger entry point. From Chris Hanson setting up sickos on chat rooms to cyber bullying, we think we’ve met the scariest predator of all.Read more
So what’s the big deal? Come on! Everybody is doing it, right? It’s like breathing or eating or playing Mafia Wars. How sad are we? This is what today’s children think about infidelity. This is what we are teaching our kids every time they walk through the room and you’re watching the Insider or the evening news mentions the celeb who’s stepping out on their woman.Read more
Top 5 Things you Say to Kids when they ask for a cell phone.
My parents were not the ‘let’s sit down and discuss this’ kind of parents. If I asked for something I clearly would not get, my mother usually responded with a comment that involved public hair and or inability to wipe my ass. My parents were not only old school they were from a formerly fascist now communist world. The great part was there was no snow on the tiny island of Cuba. The worst stories we heard were about walking from Guanabacoa to Havana, which apparently is far. My father said it was like walking from Los Angeles to Michigan but like most Latin men, he exaggerates.
So this week we are talking about what do you do when your family and friends are more f’d up then you? This is particularly poignant when we discuss our children. Most parents walk around with the same worry: ‘AM I screwing my kids up?’ If you don’t then you are probably one of those self-righteous prigs who home-school, have an organic garden and sew all of your children’s clothing. For most of us though, there is always that nagging doubt about whether or not you are doing things right. Well, CoupleDumb is here to assuage your fears. Yes,Read more
The topic of the week is privacy and if you are a parent, you are probably reading this and laughing really hard. ‘Sure CoupleDumb, I have all the privacy in the world!’ You don’t have to be sarcastic. We hear you. CoupleDumb understands what it feels like to never be able to go to the bathroom alone. We understand the pleasures of shutting a door only to have that bliss shattered by rapid banging and repetitive shouts of ‘Mommy, Daddy!’Read more
As we wind up our two week therapy rant, we would like to highlight a couple of good points: you model healthy behavior for your kids, going to therapy can be fun, Paul is a hippy-angel, L. Ron Hubbard created a religion because he was bitter and everyone can benefit from a stint on the couch. Now it’s Lee’s turn to show her freaky side and share some of her recent discoveries.Read more
Marriage has changed considerably over the last half of a century. Of course, since it is Tuesday and this is CoupleDumb, we need to ask the question, ‘Where are children in this climate of new marriage?’ The answer is ‘nowhere’.Read more