50 Things I have learned in 50 years – Day 30

There is less than a month until I turn 50. As we enter December and my 50th birthday looms like the shiny lights all over my house, I feel even more compelled to share what I have learned. Sure, some lessons have been better than others but lessons learned nonetheless.

cake love

I know you’re thinking, ‘Did you learn anything about love and stuff?’ Which brings me to #30

Love is a choice.

Please, keep your bullshit, ‘the heart wants what it wants’ and ‘it just happened’. You choose love much like you choose not to love. We like to pretend that people and emotions are this rudderless sailboat that drifts through life being buffeted by torrential feelings and such. Not true. We are constantly choosing to act and not act. If you have a bona fide brain injury to your frontal lobe, I’ll let this one slide. Everyone else, you are on the hook for your choices. Ball up and take responsibility.

Come back for the next 20 days and see what else I have learned.

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