50 Things I have learned in 50 years – Day 13

Over the next 50 days, I will be going over the 50 things that I have learned to make my life awesome. I know people are always doing these but so few of them have a PhD and 25+ years of experience working with human beings on what they want and changing the things they don’t like. Here is my list which will culminate on my 50th birthday.

I know you’re thinking, ‘What have you learned about life?’ Which brings me to #13

Always be nice ….until they suck the nice right out of you.

I am a nice person. People who know me think I am sweet and generous. However, that only works until you have pushed too far. I have given people the opportunity to rise up from their shittiness and have given them the space to shine. If you continually shit on these opportunities, I have no other choice.

Now, according to Family Systems, specifically Bowenian Family Therapy, emotional cut-off is a bad thing and usually entails the person doing the cutting repeating the same unhealthy patterns. Thus, I always leave the door open a crack. If you care to try it again, go for it. Just know that I will not be setting out cookies for the visit.

Come back for the next 37 days and see what else I have learned.