The case against porn

         
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          We are not prudes by any stretch of the imagination. Just writing that conjures up all sorts of naughty things in our naturally wicked imaginations. We usually try to tone it down but our lives consist of one innuendo after another. That being said, we still feel strongly about the subject of pornography, not as an art form but as a vehicle to sexual dysfunction. We realize that many sex therapists still prescribe pornography as a stimulant but we ask that everyone keep an open mind when discussing this topic and not necessarily the same open mind that had you purchase a copy of ‘Romancing the Bone’.

          Lee says: This week is about good sex and I am well aware that this subject matter makes the regular Mommy Blogger blush and say things like ‘oh, that is not the kind of subject matter that I, nor my readers, are even remotely interested in.’ My response is BULLSHIT! Sex and porn are obviously being done and watched by lots of people and, statistically and through the powers of inference, I can deduce that you have at least tried sex once. Just because we are discussing sex does not mean that this post or anything on our site is pornographic. We understand that the Supreme Court defines obscenity as the following: ‘1) A thing must be prurient in nature, 2) A thing must be completely devoid of scientific, political, educational, or social value and 3) A thing must violate the local community standards. If it meets all three of these things, it is considered obscenity.’ Even by definition we are not obscene!

          Anyway, we return to the matter at hand, pornography. Porn is created specifically to elicit a sexual reaction from the viewer. It is not made for any other reason. If it gets you hot, it did its job. Unfortunately, pornography has side-effects as well. Porn is shot with actors who have skills that most people do not possess. Also, through the magic of film making, we are not privy to everything that a porn actor must go through to perform at such a level. Because of this obvious abuse of our gullibility, we are subjected to enhanced, distorted, manipulated images of sex which has us believe that those acts are possible. Little do we know that the guy is on a Viagra IV and we have just seen the same deep thrusting scene 12 times.

          Sure, most reasonable people know that movies are make-believe. However, when we watch a porn or any film, we enter a trance state (follow me here since a lot of you will start shaking your head. I will remind you I am a professional and I know a few things that you may not.) Have you ever seen anyone watching TV and, while you are trying to get their attention, they are all slack-jawed watching their show and you could stand on your head and light your hair on fire and they still don’t look over at you? That is a trance. When we watch porn, we become engrossed and thus entranced in the images. Becoming sexually stimulated is a result of entering that mindset. It is a question of focus. In this state, we are mesmerized (literally) and captivated in the images that tattoo themselves on our grey matter. We forget about the Viagra or editing tricks and believe that this is how good sex looks.

          We create these standards to sex that are based on warped fantasies of porn producers. We forget our own fantasies and needs and let porn hijack our foreplay as well. If we do it like this, then it’s good.

          If my husband does this, I will have an orgasm.

          If my wife does that, I will have a great orgasm.

          Well guess what? BULLSHIT! Porn is not real and its long term effects on people are just becoming evident. Aside from the obvious addiction to porn that many people have developed (sadly more people are watching sex than having it), we are developing sexual performance issues that could be a direct result of never ending images of copulation.

          Sex is a wonderful act that should be done in a safe manner with someone you love and trust. I don’t think that sex with a construction worker who goes into a lovelorn women’s home looking for an electrical outlet is the basis for a long term relationship. But, I can see it now…the scene opens with a woman looking out a window wearing only a teddy and ducky slippers. She spots a hunky construction worker whose jeans are 2 sizes to small….

One comment

  • Miriam Alario

    “We forget about the Viagra or editing tricks and believe that this is how good sex looks.”
    You nust get better porn than I do.

    But seriously, is there anything really wrong with watching when you’re both either too tired or too sick to engage in the real thing? We do a sort of Rocky Horror thing during which we make commentary, turn off the sound and do our own soundtracks, or through the magic of Dual inputs, play the TV sound from the Korean Channel. We get a good laugh together, and stay ‘united’ mentally, even if not ‘flying united’.
    Or are we just sick puppies?

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