Lazy Marriage

So if marriage is work, by whatever definition, can you have a lazy marriage? Of course, you can! The definition of a marriage falling apart is a lazy marriage. Once again, we reiterate our sentiment from yesterday, work is not defined the same way here on CoupleDumb. We like to think of the ‘work’ we do in marriage as work defined as they do in karma- good deeds to create a positive effect. If you are unwilling to do that, then being lazy is the least of your worries.

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Is Marriage Work?

Ben Affleck was very excited when he won the Oscar for Best Picture. While thanking everyone, he thanked his wife, Jennifer Gardner. Was it your usual gushy ‘I love you, Baby!’ kind of tripe? No. He said, “I want to thank you for working on our marriage for 10 Christmases. It’s good, it is work, but it’s the best kind of work, and there’s no one I’d rather work with.” The world gasped! How dare he reveal that marriage is work? Why not just give us the pabulum and move on!

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Why do some relationships work while others don’t?

CoupleDumb has been writing about relationships for nearly 4 years. We have tackled a lot of subjects regarding relationships and revisited the same subjects as the years have progressed. We have written and posted over 1000 posts and we still have 1000’s more to write. The subject of relationships is just as rich today as it was 4 years ago. The funny thing is that we are still asked the same questions. Why do some relationships work while others don’t? What is the secret to a happily ever after? And finally, how do you fix what’s seems broken?

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So, You Wanna Get Married

So, you wanna get married. Why? With all the horrible press that marriage gets in the media, why would anyone risk a marriage? Statistically, over 50% of all marriages end in divorce. Those numbers can only be seen as good if you live in Las Vegas. A less than 50% chance of survival during surgery is terrifying but pretty decent if you are playing Hi Low in Vegas. It’s a gamble that is reflected in the decline of new marriages every year within the last few years. These new numbers reflect a cynicism or realism that the wide eyed bride and groom of yore possessed.

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Balancing Work And Marriage

Before shrugging off the shackles of working for ‘the man’, we worked out in the real world. Since both of us have a tendency to be workaholics, when we did work, there were many long nights. Paul was completing budgets, financial statements, writing grants, attending meetings or lobbying in the state or federal government. Whereas my nights were spent doing therapy under sinks,

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Marriage And What The Media Sells

Recently, research showed that if a wife who has cold feet before the marriage, specifically about the concept of marriage, they are more likely to divorce. As we have said a million times on CoupleDumb, the media has given marriage a bad rap. It is the butt of a joke, the relationship gallows and this will not change as long as we continue to perpetuate that. We allow the divorced to speak on marriage. We allow the religious zealots to pervert the union by making it a church wedding more special than a justice of the peace. We allow our fears and that of society to take over our marriages so all that is left is a cliché wrapped in a sitcom romp.

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Get To Boinking

We warned you at the beginning of the week that this was a tough topic and that we were going to be honest and ‘in your face’. Today is no different. There are going to be a lot of people that are not going to like what we have to say. You see, today we are going to tell you that if you are in a sexless marriage then you are probably not in love. We told you that some people would not like this but please keep reading. We are not trying to be mean. We just want to help.

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