What To Tell Meddling Family

Last week we talked about what marriage is and isn’t. One of the topics that come up every time we talk about relationships is boundaries. On a weekly basis, we get emails and comments that mention family and friends who are, in a word, interfering with relationships. Every week, we write people back telling them to ‘stop it’. And yet, we still get them. Is anyone listening?! We will discuss this topic again but this time, we will also provide you with what to say to people in the future.

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Yes Video Giveaway

I remember sitting on my Mom’s huge bed and going through her old photos and slides. At night, we would close the shades and Dad would set up the projector in the kitchen so we could watch old movies. Sometimes, the projector would fail and a piece of film would be ruined. Fast forward to the 90’s and for our parent’s anniversary, we gave them the best gift- we transferred their old movies to VHS. They were over the moon. Today, they sit there gathering dust. Thanks to Yes Video, not only are we getting them transferred to DVD we can access them with the new iPad App.

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The Evil Step Parent Myth

Does the evil step-parent myth still exist? You bet! Any adult entering a relationship with a person with children must take into account the ramifications of becoming a parent figure to those children. This is why it is harder for people with children to find a partner. Many are spooked by the possibility that they could be the evil step parent or worse, be stuck with a child that will vilify them forever. Many parents are oblivious to how heavily influenced the role of step parent and step child are by the media. There are so few happy stories out there of happy, healthy blended families. We know that the horror stories are just louder than the happy ones.

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Question About The Blended Family

We hear lots of stories of divorce and remarriage. We hear of the attempt to unite two families or introduce kids to step parents and step siblings. These issues are not new. Heck, we were watching Brady Bunch back in the early 70’s where they were dealing with the same issues. Yes, Carol and Mike were widowers but the melding of two families is just as poignant as it was back then as it is now. And, yes, divorce adds a deeper wrinkle to the creation of a new family dynamic. We also need to consider the dynamics of adoptive children with birth children since adoption is more common than ever!

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Old People And The Blended Family

When we look at the marital/divorce rate in this country we have to be assume that at least 40% of all families will be mixed. However, a mixed family/blended family is also called that if the family is of multiple races or ethnicities. Since we receive so many questions regarding these families we thought it would just be easier to do a week discussing the unique issues dealing with these families.

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Cut Off

Hello kids! Today’s lesson here at CoupleDumb is very important. It is about cut-off. In school, cut-off is a very simple term that has deep psychological meaning in marriage and family systems theory. I will break it down for you so you can understand why I would spend a whole post discussing something that seems so obvious on face value.

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The Crazy Hippie

One of the interesting things about writing about relationships, day in and day out, is that we gain some insight. This week, as we delve into the question ‘What do you do when your family is more f’d up than you?’ we find ourselves learning something, which makes us both very uncomfortable. We wouldn’t want to start a trend, would we?

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The Tamarac Test

Hello friends and happy Monday to everyone! We are wrapping up our vacation and coming home in a few days. One of the purposes of our trip was to reconnect with people and reaffirm friendships. When we were younger, friends were few and far between. At this point in our lives, we have some incredible friends who we can count on. The concept of friendship is beautiful but it is not a relationship to be taken lightly; at least not with us.

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Choose you into oblivion.

Finally it’s Friday! Thank God. Hey, maybe we’re on to something. FiFTG! Anyways, we hope you all have plans for the long weekend. We hope your plan includes some relaxation, pampering and fun. We have yet to plan anything. Jeannie has finals starting next week and we have a playroom that needs major organizing or maybe some bricks and mortar to seal it up. The choices for the weekend are as varied as the members of our family. But let’s face it, we have family that we disowned a long time ago.

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Momma’s boy or the rebel?

Yesterday, the post included some information that was in poor taste. The guilty party has been threatened, beaten and is in time out. It is never acceptable for CoupleDumb to cross the line in any way and we promise to never go there again. As a couple, we must keep each other honest and hold each other to our highest possibilities. With this in mind you will understand why Lee had to turn Paul into his Mom for saying what he did.

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