Conscious Uncoupling And The Age Myth

Conscious Uncoupling sounds a lot like the premise of an SNL sketch. Even though it is based on Psychodynamic principles and is a responsible way of breaking up, there are still some premises that do not necessarily settle well with reality. One of the reasons that Gwyneth Paltrow gave on her website GOOP for trying Conscious Uncoupling is that people live longer and the idea of a ‘forever’ love is not reasonable. As we grow, we change and so must our relationships. CoupleDumb does not agree.

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Conscious Uncoupling

CoupleDumb does not like to discuss the relationship issues of others. Recently, Gwyneth Paltrow and Chris Martin announced that they were separating. This caused a not-so-pretty rush of jokes and chuckling at what is a very sad reality of some relationships. The gist of the joke was that Gwyneth’s perfect marriage was now over. And to add fuel to the fire, they were not just breaking up but they were practicing Conscious Uncoupling. People leaped on this newfangled break up and cast it into the same heap as Gwyneth’s love of kale, Cioppino and juice cleanses. However, there is something to be said about conscious uncoupling; some good, some bad. This week we will take a critical look at this idea and is it worth a try.

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4 Predictors That Divorce Is On The Way

This week we have covered what Marriage is and isn’t. Today, we are going to the dark side. Today we are taking bets and making odds. We are channeling Jimmy the Greek and a bit of Paul’s sordid past and telling you how we predict the failure of marriages. We know, this isn’t the usual uplifting fare we provide but you can also see this as things you should avoid. Or better still, if the odds are stacked up against you, cut your losses.

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This Love is Forever – A Review

Occasionally we get a book to review that has us repeating our values. CoupleDumb is the Relationship blog. We believe that human beings thrive in relationship. However, relationships also have a way of destroying even the strongest of individuals. This is why we support happy relationships. Divorce is not a bad word in our vocabulary and we have counseled many a couple to split up in a healthy manner. Separation, break up and divorce could be a very positive thing because it opens you up to the possibility of having a healthy relationship. However, how do you make sure that your children understand this?

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5 ways To Have a Healthy Divorce, Numbers 4 and 5

So, you just got a divorce. According to the new stats that is what we do. You have tried to be civil. You have tried to be rational but let’s face it, if a hole opened in the ground and sucked your ex down into hell where the scum belongs, you would not be crushed. Yes, you still have those fantasies of your ex-spouse dissolving into the aether, never to be seen again. After all, why did you get a divorce if you still have to deal with your heartbreaker? Unfortunately now you share kids or dogs or fish or credit cards or a house or health insurance.

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5 ways To Have a Healthy Divorce, Numbers 2 and 3

The prospect of divorce must be daunting. After spending so much energy, time, and emotion in creating a marriage, a divorce is like a kick in the stomach. It is an unraveling of your hard work. It is a harsh grade on your life’s report card. For whatever reason, you and your spouse have decided to call it quits. You have decided that no amount of work, remodeling, emotional healing or forgetting will save your relationship. Some of you come to this conclusion in an adult manner after soul searching and doing everything you can to salvage the love that once was. Some people high tail it when the going gets rough. And there are some of you who are still struggling with the untimely conclusion of something you thought would last forever.

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5 ways To Have a Healthy Divorce, Number 1

A new study came out showing that there is a marked rise in divorce rates. The Baby Boomers are getting divorced. Do we need to glue people together to keep them married? So that we are very clear, CoupleDumb is not pro-marriage; we are pro happy and healthy marriages. A divorce is a necessary evil when you find yourself in a relationship that does not work for you and is slowly eroding your esteem and soul. So, we invite all people in the midst of divorce to entertain the possibility of a healthy divorce.

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5 ways To Have a Healthy Divorce, Numbers 4 and 5

So, you just got a divorce. It is January, after all. This is national divorce month. You have tried to be civil. You have tried to be rational but let’s face it, if a hole opened in the ground and sucked your ex down into hell where the scum belongs, you would not be crushed. Yes, you still have those fantasies of your ex-spouse dissolving into the aether, never to be seen again. After all, why did you get a divorce if you still have to deal with your heartbreaker? Unfortunately now you share kids or dogs or fish or credit cards or a house or health insurance.

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5 ways To Have a Healthy Divorce, Numbers 2 and 3

The prospect of divorce must be daunting. After spending so much energy, time, and emotion in creating a marriage, a divorce is like a kick in the stomach. It is an unraveling of your hard work. It is a harsh grade on your life’s report card. For whatever reason, you and your spouse have decided to call it quits. You have decided that no amount of work, remodeling, emotional healing or forgetting will save your relationship. Some of you come to this conclusion in an adult manner after soul searching and doing everything you can to salvage the love that once was. Some people high tail it when the going gets rough. And there are some of you who are still struggling with the untimely conclusion of something you thought would last forever.

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5 ways To Have a Healthy Divorce, Number 1

January is Divorce Month! Gosh, we didn’t get you anything. But seriously, more divorces are filed in the month of January than any other month. For family lawyers, this is like tax season for CPAs. Sadly, this is the result of starting the New Year fresh. Many people tend to make big decisions when faced with the prospect of another year. So that we are very clear, CoupleDumb is not pro-marriage; we are pro happy and healthy marriages. A divorce is a necessary evil when you find yourself in a relationship that does not work for you and is slowly eroding your esteem and soul. So, we invite all people in the midst of divorce to entertain the possibility of a healthy divorce.

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