I can’t hear you

It takes 72 muscles to speak. Of course this is not counting those who are gesticulators, pokers and overly dramatic. That is pretty impressive and when you pair that with the brain activity that it takes to create speech, then you are talking a mission more complicated than getting pre-schoolers to go to the bathroom. Even with all that, listening is still the biggest accomplishment of human-kind. The miracle of hearing begins with the outside of the ear capturing sound waves and funneling them through to the three tiniest bones of our bodies vibrating and sending the message to our brains to decipher the sounds, piece together words, then phrases, then sentences. But all of this process is left in the dust when we try to interpret what those words mean. Why did they use those words? Why did they say it like that?

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Old School Parenting

Hey Papa? Can you hear me now? Hello? Parenting in the classical sense does not really account for effective communication unless we are talking about maintaining control with an iron fist. Growing up in the old days meant that there was little communication but lots of orders. It’s no wonder we all grew up to be these hippy tree huggers and the pendulum has swung so hard that now we are letting a child’s feelings rule the home.

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Communication and Scary Clowns

Papa can you hear me? It is such a poignant moment in Yentl when Babs, with mullet and lackluster makeup, sings the ‘Daddy you don’t get me’ song. It’s the tragedy of most relationships when communication breaks down. We have discussed how to communicate here before, how to say things that resonate and how to use appropriate language but the breakdown can happen on either side. What do we mean? Are you listening?

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Blah, Blah, Blah

Another week is over and the weekend lies before us like a drunken whore ready to be taken. Too much simile? We are looking forward to this weekend. We had planned a little romantic getaway and were sidelined by a little cold and a million loads of laundry (thanks to Sun Detergent for making it easier to keep our monkeys smelling nice). At this point, regardless of sniffles, we are getting away. Before we take off we need to wrap up relationship week.

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