Attachment Parenting

Excuses for bad parenting: 1) Well, it isn’t like they came with a manual. 2) You need a license to fish but anyone can be a parent. 3) Ever since they made it illegal to spank, parents aren’t allowed to parent. People say this all the time when they are in parenting classes. It’s like we have decided that since we are ill prepared for parenting that we should not be held responsible for what we do as parents. Then you have the converse who feels that parenting is a full time job which must be approached like containing a nuclear spill with a baby strapped to their chest. Is attachment that important?

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The Little Ball and Chain

Today is Monday and for many kids in this country, it is the first day of the fall term. Welcome to the 2010-2011 school year! If you are in South Florida, we say ‘Go Coral Reef Barracudas!’ Anyways, all three of our kids are in school today and we are in the middle of some serious ambivalence. We have some sadness mixed with elation mixed with exhaustion and a smidge of ennui and a lot of ‘now what do we do’s?’. One thing we are very clear about is that it is a good thing they are in school.

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Jingoism and other cool words I’m attached to.

One of our faithful readers wrote us last week and asked these very insightful questions: ‘Hi guys! I understand that there is only so much you can address in a few paragraphs, but I hope you expand on the topic of attachments. As of now, it is hard for me to imagine anyone completely free of attachments, and see our capacity to form attachments as necessary for our survival. So I will play Darwin’s advocate with the following questions:

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Recap: Attachment-bad, Star Wars-all knowing, never piss off a writer.

So what have we learned this week? We’ve shared our experiences with the church and how we continue to work on our feelings related to this incredible betrayal. Please understand, in some really fucked up way, we are thankful and grateful for this experience. We have ultimately created a healthier relationship with God and look forward to sharing this with our kids. We discussed the bigotry of the church and how they twist their beliefs and the message of Jesus to fit their homophobic agenda. And all of this has to do with attachment.

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