Letting Go And Moving Forward
Real Relationship Advice
One of the memes that is making the rounds is a saying concerning the people who enter our lives. They refer to people entering our lives to teach us something. However, as in most things, sometimes people have a hard time letting go. Saying goodbye is not easy for most people but saying goodbye to someone who has affected our lives, regardless of whether it has been painful or fun, is nearly impossible.
I have worked with many people over the years to assist them in creating a new life. I helped them in their relationships or, in some cases, letting go of a relationship that did not forward them. I have never worked with someone who took this new life path lightly. I have never seen anyone embark on a single life after years of marriage without some misgivings. That is expected and completely normal.
The issue is not the misgivings but in the letting go. How do you let go of something that once served you? If you have seen hoarders or even looked in your garage, you know we have a tough time letting go. But we must make room for the new by getting rid of stuff and people who do not forward us.
So how do we do this? You need to ask yourself, does this forward me? If we are not moving forward, we are moving backwards or we are stuck. Neither position is healthy. This is not to say that sometimes you need to take a minute or that reflection is a bad thing. Sometimes, by looking at our past, we can see why we do what we do. However, we can’t stay with our eyes on the past. Everything we do must be to forward us if we are to be healthy and moving towards goals.
This week we will give you some actionable steps to letting go of what does not forward you.