Don’t be a Pussy

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Do you know what I hate the most about watching TV and Movies? Pussies. O.K., let’s back up. I’m referring to actors who play the roles of cowards. I am referring to watching a couple play this tap dance of ‘I am in love with you but I’m too much of a chicken shit to say anything.’ It drives me insane as can be discerned from the obscenities in the first few seconds.

Here is a CoupleDumb Rule of Love: Don’t be a Pussy!

Love is a game of courage. There is no room for gutless people in the domain of love. People actually think they can create a deep, fulfilling relationship without risking and being vulnerable. It’s like taking a shower without getting wet.  Trust me, it doesn’t work. In fact, if superficial, drama filled hook-ups is your sort of thing, keep it up! Go ahead and be guarded or lie or wait for the other one to make a move or say something.

We know that people play that game because most screenplays that have any kind of romance have that theme. It’s ‘will they/won’t they’ or, what we appropriately titled ‘just fuck already!’ (You should come by our house on any given day while watching TV and invariably one of us would scream that at the TV). We don’t have patience for cowardice. Love is a brave person’s game and no wimps are allowed. Not risking for love is akin to staying in-doors to avoid lightening. Life is risk and the sooner you understand that concept the sooner you live your life to the fullest.

Love is the safest place to take risks. Wow. Really? Yes, it is. Think about it like this. Love is something that is free flowing and usually reciprocated. You love your family, friends, children and pets. You can love your job, country and even your car. In most cases, that love flows uninterrupted and expands with time. Maturity would teach you that ‘And, in the end, the love you take/ Is equal to the love you make’. Paul McCartney was right on. Loving is a safe investment. You get what you put in.

However, the game we play that we call love is a game of chicken, the one who flinches first loses. It is so sad. For years, the responsibility for love was the man’s. He asked the woman to dance, to date, to love and to marry.  These were the good old days if you liked sitting at home waiting for him to call. These were the good old days if you like girls freaking out when you ask them to dance. This arrangement was unfair, unbalanced and so un-cool. Now, we feel we are more evolved and believe that both sexes need to step up to the plate. Women are just as responsible for love but it is still the man’s responsibility to propose marriage. Anything detracting from the norm may be construed as a disproportionate power vortex on the female side.

This system is so unfair. CoupleDumb says ‘Be Brave. Be bold. Be a lion for love!’ Love like you can’t get hurt. Give love liberally because ultimately, someday, you will reap all the love in the world.

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