A Considerate Marriage Is Better Than The Best Wedding

If you go to You Tube right now, you can find almost 200,000 videos under the tag, ‘proposal’. With love romanticized we have supersized overt expressions of love. If you are going to propose, make sure whatever you do is videotaped and uploaded so that it goes viral. The proposal needs to be memorable, spectacular and over the top for it to be worthwhile. If you don’t have a Jumbo-tron projecting it

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Consideration And Love

It’s the little things that make a marriage a good marriage. We have said on multiple occasions that love is not enough to make a good relationship. Some couples find that love gets strained very easily when there is a crisis. The songs are wrong. The romantic comedies are wrong. Shakespeare was very wrong. Romeo and Juliet would have imploded within 2 years and she would have gone back to her parents and he would have gone back to marry Rosaline. Love cannot do what consideration can do…

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Consideration Or Its Opposite

When it comes to love, words are cheap. Saying ‘I love you’ is easy once you get the first one out of the way. For some couples, ‘I love you’ is said with as much feeling as ‘Hi’ and ‘Pass the salt’. It becomes routine and a call and response akin to Marco Polo. When was the last time you said ‘I love you’ while looking into each other’s eyes and really meaning the words? This is not chastising in any way. We all do this!

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Opposites And Change

When I met Paul, I hardly noticed him. I was a plucky 21 year old young woman. I became acquainted with his girlfriend and his best friend. Both of them had large personalities and were fun to hang around. We would hang out talking and Paul, like a praying mantis, all legs and limbs, would sit on the floor and just listen; rarely saying anything except for a well-placed comment which would halt the conversation either because it was hilarious or thought provoking. When, I finally had the chance to speak with him alone, I found him to be my cerebral soul-mate. He was adroit, funny, poignant, challenging and I could bounce from Physics to Religion to Science Fiction to Psychology without giving him whip lash. Our biggest difference was that I entered a room with sirens, cheers and usually needed every ounce of attention while he slithered in and stayed in the shadows, hidden from view. 23 (almost 24) years later, I have become more introverted and he has become what I lovingly call, ‘ChitChatty Spice’.

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The Wedding Fantasy

Little girls are raised to embrace fantasy, adore romance and dream of being a princess. Even when feminists raise their little girls, you still get young ladies dreaming of a magical wedding. It is almost impossible to get away from it. From the magical proposal that transports you to that childhood fantasy where your boyfriend creates this elaborate display of love to the dress that makes you look straight out of a fairytale to the wedding that costs more than the GNP of several third world countries, these dreams are not unique to prissy girls.

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