Loss Of Affection And Other Reasons That People Divorce

Untethered by the bounds of propriety and fact rather than judgment, CoupleDumb is giving our real opinion about why people divorce. We would like to reiterate just for edification that we do not believe in marriage, we believe in happy relationships. If that is within the context of marriage, yippee! If you aren’t happy and haven’t committed any heinous stupidity to ruin your relationship then by all means, divorce, break up, sever all ties, delete their phone number and change your Facebook status. That being said, today we give our humble opinion another one of the top reasons people divorce, loss of affection.

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The Fourth Of July

The fourth of July is a date that is celebrated by the United States to commemorate the signing of the Declaration of Independence. The Declaration of Independence, unlike the Constitution, was a letter written to the British saying, ‘Back off, buddy. You are infringing on my rights.’ The following is the beginning of the Declaration:

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5 ways To Have a Healthy Divorce, Numbers 4 and 5

So, you just got a divorce. According to the new stats that is what we do. You have tried to be civil. You have tried to be rational but let’s face it, if a hole opened in the ground and sucked your ex down into hell where the scum belongs, you would not be crushed. Yes, you still have those fantasies of your ex-spouse dissolving into the aether, never to be seen again. After all, why did you get a divorce if you still have to deal with your heartbreaker? Unfortunately now you share kids or dogs or fish or credit cards or a house or health insurance.

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5 ways To Have a Healthy Divorce, Numbers 2 and 3

The prospect of divorce must be daunting. After spending so much energy, time, and emotion in creating a marriage, a divorce is like a kick in the stomach. It is an unraveling of your hard work. It is a harsh grade on your life’s report card. For whatever reason, you and your spouse have decided to call it quits. You have decided that no amount of work, remodeling, emotional healing or forgetting will save your relationship. Some of you come to this conclusion in an adult manner after soul searching and doing everything you can to salvage the love that once was. Some people high tail it when the going gets rough. And there are some of you who are still struggling with the untimely conclusion of something you thought would last forever.

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Fighting Like The Three Christs Of Ypsilanti

We were writing about conflict when our Alexa toolbar showed an article about the Three Christs of Ypsilanti. In a combination of curiosity and procrastination, I had to look. The Three Christs of Ypsilanti is a novel based on a case study done by a psychiatrist in the 60’s. Lee knows about this stuff but I didn’t and I thought it was fascinating. The psychiatrist, Milton Rokeach, took three schizophrenics who believed that they were each Christ and treated them together. (By the way, super unethical and he later apologized for doing that.) He thought that the reality of seeing others in the same state would help ground them in reality. Nope. They discounted the others as crazy, hallucinations or ghosts. It got us to thinking how much people will work at being right, even crazy ones.

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Are arguments normal?

Are arguments normal? Do all couples fight? Is it the mark of a sick couple if they don’t fight?

One of the gifts of maturity is looking back and seeing your evolution as a human being. The way we were when we were kids is so different from now. At least, we hope so. Experience has a way of softening you. Interaction with people from different cultures and ethnicities broaden our understanding of life. Being in relationships enlighten us as to the capacity of our heart and ability to forgive. So, when we argue as a couple, there is a certain absurdity to the ferocity with which we defend our position.

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Date Night: The Good, The Bad and the Stupid

We have been married for 23 years. We have three kids with ages ranging from college to kindergarten. We work almost constantly. We are pushing 50 and yet still make time to be intimate and have sex. We have done all of this without having a date. Are we bragging? Yes, we are! Date Night is a panacea that may make marriages even more vulnerable. Here are the CoupleDumb pros and cons on Date Night.

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Romance Without The Fireworks

If sex is the language of passion and lust, then romance is the language of intimacy. Romance has been hijacked by the Greeting Card Company, poorly lit restaurants and sky writers. At this very moment there is a man considering renting a high school marching band to play Bryan Adams while fireworks light the sky and a perfectly timed small parachute drops with an engagement ring in the middle of a football field; the bigger and more expensive the better. You have to ask yourself, if this is how you are starting your marriage, what do you think she will expect in the future? Engagements have reached the absurd. If he doesn’t pull out all the stops to propose marriage then he is not romantic. Romance has become perverted and currently means ‘large overtures and public proclamations of love’.

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Why Do We Use Drugs (Or How Are Zombies Made)

Have you ever wondered why someone starts doing drugs? We know they are bad. We know that you lose focus, drive and you can forget about being goal driven if you are high. We know that you do really stupid things when you are high. We now know that you could end up feasting on cheek bones and using your bowels in an attempt to get-away from the authority (which, in case you are taking notes, is all bad). So why do drugs? Why get high? Why risk the arrest, heart attack, psychosis or just weight gain from munchies?

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A Primer On Drugs (And A Little About Zombies)

When I hear the words ‘bath salts’, my mind immediately takes me to a candlelit bathroom with Enya playing in the background. I do not immediately think of the undead terrorizing and eating homeless people. Unfortunately, the soulless chemists and dealers have done it again and created a substance with a benign name and malignant qualities. This post will serve as your quick in-service on the whats and whys of the drug world. If information is power then this will be your gamma ray exposure (Hulk reference- Yay Avengers!).

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