Balancing Work And Marriage

Before shrugging off the shackles of working for ‘the man’, we worked out in the real world. Since both of us have a tendency to be workaholics, when we did work, there were many long nights. Paul was completing budgets, financial statements, writing grants, attending meetings or lobbying in the state or federal government. Whereas my nights were spent doing therapy under sinks,

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Hope For Your Relationship

Do you remember when you met your significant other? I remember when I met Paul. I was working as counselor at a community college and Paul was dating one of the peer counselors in the same department I worked. I was younger than my colleagues- I think the person closest to my age was about 20 years older than me. Since I was the same age as the peer counselors, I tended to hang out with them. I had a party on Good Friday in 1987. That is the day I met Paul. He was there with his girlfriend.

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Polyamory – Too Much Love?

Too much of anything is usually not good for you but, what about if it is love? What about if you were to be loved by more than just your spouse/ partner? Relationships take many forms and now one of the trendiest forms is polyamory. Polyamory is the lifestyle where you can have several loves and, usually, these loves are all aware of the other. In some cases, polyamorous couples flock together and form unique families. Polyamory is based on the principles that there is enough love, intimacy and sex to go around. It is considered a mature, consensual relationship among multiple adults. Now, you know how CoupleDumb feels about too many men/women on the field. However, in the case of polyamory you have less of a focus on sex and more on a loving relationship with more than one person.

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Too Much Of An Opinion

Most of the time, when a couple seeks help from a mental health professional or pastor, it is because they have stopped acting like a ‘couple’. There are certain characteristics every couple shares that make the statement, ‘we are together’. These outward signs of couplehood or relationship are essential so that the community also support the pair. Most couples hate being pigeonholed into characteristics or have their unique relationship boiled down to hand holding or some other mannerism. However, like all good scientists, psychologists who research marriages and relationships look for similarities of good relationships to create a list of attributes.

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We Are Number 1. (ish)

I’m a smart woman. I am one of those snobs that push for more knowledge and value a higher education. I respect those individuals who have committed to earning a degree and put in the long hours and sleepless nights. I never say, ‘I don’t understand’ or ‘I am confused’ because I will work tirelessly to research the subject matter until I do. So, when I say that I am confused it is a rare event and I am probably holding the sides of my head so my head does not explode.

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PTSD And The Stressor

This week we are discussing the reality of PTSD. PTSD is not unique to veterans. Yes, thanks to veterans and those who support them, we have made strides in diagnosing and understanding PTSD but the reality is that we all can suffer from PTSD without one shot being fired or being in uniform. The T, as Paul pointed out, is not for Tickle. The T is for trauma and anyone at any age can experience it. Statistically, we all will experience some sort of trauma in our lifetime.

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Get To Boinking

We warned you at the beginning of the week that this was a tough topic and that we were going to be honest and ‘in your face’. Today is no different. There are going to be a lot of people that are not going to like what we have to say. You see, today we are going to tell you that if you are in a sexless marriage then you are probably not in love. We told you that some people would not like this but please keep reading. We are not trying to be mean. We just want to help.

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Money And Other Reasons That People Divorce

For the last two days we have let you know that we at CoupleDumb are not pro-marriage. We are pro-happy. If there are other things out there that make you happier than being in a relationship then get out. Which brings us to today’s reason why people get divorced: Finance and career. Some people just cannot have both a career and a relationship. It is one or the other. Others do not even realize that they are pitting the importance of money in their life against the priorities of their relationship.

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