Apr 272015

The idea of meeting someone at a bar or work who turns out to be “the one” is as likely as picking the winning Lottery numbers. CoupleDumb has always been “Pro Online Dating”. This way of meeting people serves two purposes- keeps you safe as you “put yourself out there” while still allowing you to meet people to whom you share common interests. It is because of sites like Match.com that on-line dating is as successful as it is.

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Online dating is not a fad and it is hardly something that someone else does. It is estimated that over 41 million people have tried on-line dating at one point in their lives. Why does it work? Simply put, on-line dating allows the couple to get to know each other on-line long before ever meeting. Because of cyber-disinhibition, the need to lie or avoid the harder subjects is gone and a couple can get to really know each other in a deeper more meaningful way. This is why the average courtship of an on-line couple before marriage lasts 18 months while a couple who meets and courts off-line take an average of 42 months to walk down the aisle.

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Match.com has been around for 2 whole decades and has provided the platform for people to meet their perfect match. To celebrate the on-line dating vanguard’s 20th birthday, we thought we could share some facts.

In the last 20 years…

  • More than 125 million people have joined Match
  • Match has created more than a quarter of a billion matches
  • Match users have sent more than 4 billion winks and emails
  • More than 20 million people have used Match through a mobile device
  • Match has created more than 10 million relationships
  • Match has “made” more than 1 million babies

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We strongly urge our single readers to give Match.com a try. You never know where you will meet the one for you.

This is a sponsored post for Match.com. All opinion, as always, are ours.

Apr 232015

When you are starting out as an adult, you still rely on Mom and Dad to help you out. Whether they bring you the occasional meal or pay the occasional bill, you know you can depend on them in your hour of need. You are never really prepared when they begin to need you. We may complain about our parents never seeing us as adults but, then again, we hardly ever imagine that we will need to care for them.

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When my Mom became ill, I was 3000 miles away. When she visited I would make her favorite meals and we would hold hands while we walked. My last visit to her, I laid in bed with her, colored her hair and even bathed her. It was the least I could do. Now with her gone and changes in our lives, we will be moving back to Miami. I foresee making meals for my Dad and watching out for him as he has always watched out for me.

As always, this is all about relationships and how they must evolve. As we get older we need to prepare to transition from child to adult to caregiver. Here are some ideas that will help you through it:

  1. Manage your time wisely.

When we become caregiver, we tend to overdo it. We tend to forget to care for ourselves. We become tired and frustrated and ultimately, burn out. Take time for yourself. Sleep. Eat properly. Take a walk. You will come back refreshed and clear headed.PT D200 ptouch frontlabel 256x300 From Child To Adult To Caregiver

  1. Make sure important medications are clearly labeled.

Use a labeler with large type, color coordinated by frequency – one a day is blue, twice a day is black and so on. Misreading a medicine bottle is very common. We found the Brother P-touch labeler to offer some great options for labeling prescriptions, along with other uses. You can find the label maker for a great price on Amazon here.

  1. Accept help.

Sometimes we get this feeling that we need to do this alone. There are folks in our communities who do this for a living and are incredible professionals. Accept the help of the community. Ask the doctors for local places who provide respite care for the elderly. Ask social workers in area hospitals for resources like food delivery or nurses aids who can assist with bathing and cleaning.

  1. Celebrate Life.

This is not a time to be somber and depressed. You can begin to grieve the parent you knew before, now. It’s OK to laugh. It’s OK to joke.  Remembering that this is part of life will help you from fighting what is happening.

  1. Accept the reality.

Our first reaction to our parents getting older and frailer is disbelief. This leads us to denying the truth. When we do that, the only place we go from there is anger. We get angry with our parents, the doctors and our siblings. No, you can’t fix it. The best you can do is to use the time they have left to love them and make them comfortable.

This transition, like any other, can be difficult if we resist. Be patient with your family because they are all going through this as well. Remember that everyone has a different relationship. While you may be losing a Mom or Dad, someone else is losing an aunt or grandfather. Most of all, be kind to yourself. This is a difficult time and the most you can do is your best.

This is a paid post for MingleMedia. As always, all opinions are our own.

Mar 182015

This is a guest post from our friends Mark and Amy:

How is it that there are some people who can survive and actually build their savings on a barely there amount of money and yet there are others earning twice, if not three times as much who never manage to pay all their bills and think that saving is something that only happens in soccer?

My brother is one of the most intelligent people I know, if he decided he wanted to be a rocket scientist he could easily invent the spaceship that would make it possible for average tourists to visit Mars. And I’m not just saying that because he’s my brother. He showed signs of genious when he was 12!

But when it comes to money – my brother is as dumb as dirt. He earns more than double my salary and yet somehow he never seems to have any money. After a recent discussion about the state of our finances I realized that there is one very big difference between us. I believe I am budget savvy, and he wouldn’t know a budget from his elbow!

The following are a few of the habits that I have developed over the years, some of them unconsciously and some of them because I had no choice and it is these habits which make me financially superior to my genius brother.

Firstly I’m a wise shopper who controls my spending

Before I leave the house I search for deals both online and in local adverts. I clip coupons, mail in any rebates I can and I buy in bulk if it means I’m going to save any money at all. I have an email JUST for signing up to any shopping and buying clubs and am currently a member of no less than 12! A couple of them, like my favorite promo codes service Discountrue, are deals sites that are responsible for half the savings I make online. I always eat before I do my shopping. Whenever I have to make a big purchase I make sure that I have done my research and I am getting the very best deal possible. I am not afraid to negotiate a better price if I think there is any chance of getting it.

My budget is simple and flexible

I have established a ‘guideline’ budget for my monthly expenses and savings and I have made sure that I always stick to it. My budget covers my everyday expenses such as food, transport and housing costs as well as monthly miscellaneous expenses such chronic medication and pet care. I have an amount set aside each month for ‘unexpected’ fluctuations in any of my usual bills and I have a portion that is untouchable unless it is a dire emergency.

I am financially techno savvy

I use technology to manage my money. My brother subscribes to blogs on the latest technology and scientific breakthroughs, I subscribe to blogs about living frugally and saving money like Discountrue I mentioned before. I use apps to track and control spending and daily living expenses. I have a smart phone, which I saved 6 months for, and I install apps and use the internet to compare prices, track spending and save money. Oh and I have become the queen of tracking down free wifi spots!

I am a habitual saver with a greater purpose

I have set a number of long term savings goals for myself. Some of them are very long term – such as buying my dream home and some of them are a little more immediate such as saving for my annual vacation. Before I buy anything I ask myself – if I buy this am I going to have to sacrifice my Christmas by the ocean? You’d be amazed how often that question makes me put something back on the shelf or close my internet browser!!! I invest as much as I can in interest bearing accounts and I have an emergency fund that I contribute to EVERY month! And unlike my brother, I avoid credit like the plague – if I can’t buy it cash or pay it off within a year – I don’t buy it!!

I truly believe that if my brother adopted just one of these habits of mine then he would find that the majority of his financial troubles would disappear. And the really nice thing about all of them? Anybody can do them and they are the type of thing that it wouldn’t really take any effort to turn into a habit!


Jan 262015

Many people have gotten tattoos in the last few decade. Even though we know that tattoos are permanent, many folk think that a little ink is a small price to pay for love. However, we know that love can be a temporary affliction for some and yet the ink is a constant reminder of lover or period of your life that is best forgotten. This is why laser tattoo removal is becoming such an important and necessary service. Like tattoo artists, not all tattoo removal is as professional as Clarkston Dermatology.

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Going to a professional dermatologist for laser hair removal or tattoo removal in Michigan is simple. There are many that offer these services like hair salons and even some tattoo shops. However, letting someone use an industrial laser on you is tricky and requires a trained and skilled professional. Having a dermatologist perform these tasks is recommended since they understand skin and how the laser will affect it. Yes, you may end up removing hair or tattoo but you can also end up with scarring that just makes it all look worse. Everyone is trying to save a buck but in cases of skin-care or even cool sculpting, the non-surgical fat reduction technique that uses cold to freeze the fat, going to a professional physician is advised.

I remember getting my first tattoo and seeing my cousin a couple of months afterwards. My Mother had to tell him that I had a tattoo. My cousin, a dermatologist, informed me that when I was ready, he would gladly remove it for me. I never took him up on that but this opened up the conversation to other services that dermatologists do go beyond what we know as lay folk. It behooves us to investigate this especially if we are considering tattoo removal, laser hair removal or coolsculpting.

Today, we have so many options out there to express ourselves. A tattoo is something very personal and should be something we are happy to wear for the rest of our lives. In the off-chance that you get a tattoo that loses its meaning or becomes a subject of shame, then please, go see your dermatologist to clean the slate.

This is a paid post but all opinions are ours.

Jan 132015

I was born and raised in Los Angeles, California. I couldn’t swim and my physical prowess was limited to long distance running so surfing and sports were not really options. My allegiance to the Dodgers started with a trip to Dodger’s Stadium, a Dodger Dog and “hat day”. I married a lady who loved them as much as I do and have worked hard to indoctrinate my kids with the love of Dodger Blue! When we moved to Miami, this became more difficult and finding sports apparel for my kids became imperative.

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Thankfully, Majestic Athletics made it possible to get our kids personalized baseball jerseys in Dodger Blue and we can deck them out with custom baseball jerseys of their favorite players. Whether it’s the Road Jersey for away games when the Dodgers play the Marlins, or performance apparel for my workout routines, Majestic Athletic makes the men’s athletic wear I need.

For the record, it wasn’t easy living 3000 miles from your favorite team. When the kids were younger, we only would get to see them a few times a year when they played the Marlins. When we showed up at the games wearing our Dodger crew neck tees, there was no mistaking who we are there to see. My boys liked wearing their sports apparel to school and representing.

Living back in Southern California, we have been able to get to several games and the boys can experience Dodger Stadium in all its glory. They have enjoyed the perfection of a Dodger Dog and enjoyed a wonderful Los Angeles evening. We have created our own memories and the love of Dodger Blue is engrained in them.

We will be moving away later this year and one of the activities we are committed to is watching a few games before we leave. We are getting a few Dodger hoodies and heading out to watch a game at the beginning of the season in the cool evening air. Wherever we go, the Dodgers will always be with us. We will watch them on TV and represent with our cool baseball jerseys.