50 Things I have learned in 50 years – Day 31

There is less than a month until I turn 50. As we enter December and my 50th birthday looms like the shiny lights all over my house, I feel even more compelled to share what I have learned. Sure, some lessons have been better than others but lessons learned nonetheless.

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I know you’re thinking, ‘Did you learn anything about love and stuff?’ Which brings me to #31

You got to know when to fight and when to let it go and mostly, you let it go.

Look, not everything is a big deal. So, he took the Turnpike instead of the Highway to the store. So you forgot to pick something up or your significant other didn’t take out the trash. When we take every omission or difference of opinion as a personal affront, we will get hurt all the time. You need to remember, it is not about you. They forgot. They took the wrong street. If you gauge your emotions and mood on the behavior of your significant other, you are not in a relationship but in prison.

Paul’s side of the bed looks a sty and no matter how much I shame him or even model good behavior on my side of the bed, his side looks like a 12 year old boy’s room. Should I argue? Should I fight with him? Should I stomp and yell and screech like a banshee? Nah. I let it go. Sure, I will make jokes every time my self-imposed veil is lifted and I catch a glimpse at the mess but I will not let his mess dictate my mood or emotions.

Come back for the next 19 days and see what else I have learned.

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