50 Things I have learned in 50 years – Day 2

Over the next 50 days, I will be going over the 50 things that I have learned to make my life awesome. I know people are always doing these but so few of them have a PhD and 25+ years of experience working with human beings on what they want and changing the things they don’t like. Here is my list which will culminate on my 50th birthday.

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I know you are thinking, ‘you must have seen some crazy stuff out there’. Which brings me to #2.

  1. Mental Illness is a very real thing….but being a little crazy is a good thing.

When folks say to me, ‘what is normal anyways?’ I kind of cock my head to the side and remember that assault is against the law. Normal is a statistical term that means average or the mean. Normal is a calculation. Normal is a societal commonality. Normal means you have more behaviors than not that are adaptive and OK by group standards.

As a child, I recall my paternal Grandmother always referring to my parents as ‘loco’. My Grandmother was one of those people that always looked old. Even in my parents wedding photos, she looked really old even though she was not. She was in her mid-40s but carried herself as older. When I got older, she started telling me I was ‘loca’. Maybe it was my hair. Maybe it was my earrings or convertible or the fact that I went to Europe by myself for a month when I was 21. Whatever it was, I had joined my parents in the crazy club.

I realize now that it was not that she was judging my behavior to be crazy but it was that my behavior was frightening to her. My Grandmother was not alone. That is the basic difference between most folks – the Normal folks and those who color outside the lines and do not take ‘no’ for an answer. Those who challenge their fears and being scared is actually a reason to try something. Sure, it’s not normal. So what? I don’t think you get a prize in Heaven as being really average. Be weird. Be odd. Live on your own terms and blow the Bell Curve out of the water.

Come back for the next 48 days and see what else I have learned.

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