50 Things I have learned in 50 years – Day 16

Over the next 50 days, I will be going over the 50 things that I have learned to make my life awesome. I know people are always doing these but so few of them have a PhD and 25+ years of experience working with human beings on what they want and changing the things they don’t like. Here is my list which will culminate on my 50th birthday.

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I know you’re thinking, ‘What have you learned about life?’ Which brings me to #16

They say time heals all wounds….grief doesn’t work like that.

With emotional pain, we tend to think of it like a cold. We get sick/hurt, endure the illness/pain and then get better. Grief doesn’t work like that. Grief is the feeling of loss that we just learn to live with. Some days are better than others. Some days you can talk about them with nary a tear and some days it feels that just thinking of them steals your breath and the heaviness in your chest will never go away. After a while, those days become fewer but they never completely leave you.

Like the cold, you can’t do much to protect yourself from grief. You can wash your hands more and take your vitamins to protect you from a cold but to be truly alive and human, you open your heart to people. When they pass, your heart will never be the same.

Come back for the next 34 days and see what else I have learned.

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