Real Relationship Advice
We are at war. However, to hear the news or politicians speak, the war is the best kept secret in our country. At the Republican National Convention, the Republican Presidential Candidate, Mitt Romney, did not mention the war in Afghanistan, the troops or anything concerning military concerns. After the convention when asked about the omission, Mitt responded, “You don’t go through a laundry list; you talk about the things you think are important.” What he did mention during the speech is that Russia is “our number one geopolitical foe”. On September 27, in front of the American Legion in Virginia, Mitt did mention troops, but not the war, and did state that his goal was to “have a military so strong no one wants to test it.”
In the Diagnostic Statistical Manual, the diagnosis of Oppositional Defiant Disorder is a pattern of disobedient, hostile, and defiant behavior toward authority figures. That defiance of authority is not necessarily a symptom of something pathological. Most people have authority issues. If at any time in your childhood you were belittled, bullied or made to feel powerless, you may develop a passive aggressive way to deal with authority. Many of us speed when we drive, talk behind the bosses back or mumble curses under our breaths as we walk away. This isn’t aberrant behavior. If anything, it is perfectly normal albeit unhealthy. This passive aggressive nature tends to escalate to pure aggression if an individual feels threatened. If we take the childhood game King of the Hill as a metaphor for global security, the concept of creating the mightiest army that people would fear to test is tantamount as waving a red flag at people who feel that this mega-military will be turned on them.
What Mitt also fails to see is that we no longer fight battles like World War II where the terms were set and it was more of a game of red rover with guns, grenades and tanks. Today’s war is fought guerilla style. There are small bands of soldiers who cause havoc and chaos. IEDs are set to take lives and create a fear consciousness. Suicide bombers sacrifice themselves to maintain that unsettled feeling. Our soldiers are being killed by the same Afghanis they just finished training. So tell me Mittens, how is a big, bad army going to fight that? How do soldiers who march and become proficient at unit security fight individuals who are just attacking the authority who is trying to change their way of life? Soldiers, tanks, missiles, war ships and aircraft are not a match to a gang of indigents with authority issues and a tenuous respect for their own life.
Yes, we must protect our country. Yes, we must take care of our veterans with not only jobs but psychological, medical and supportive help systems. This is not going to happen by throwing money at military and growing a giant to protect our country. A giant won’t see the child come in wearing a bomb or a gang of teenagers with automatic rifles.
We do commend Mitt for finally almost committing to something and letting the electorate in on his plans, sort of. Platitudes aside, we need a real plan and our country must come together to do something for our men and women half way around the world and especially when they come home.