Real Relationship Advice
We use a lot of words incorrectly. We use peruse to say that we browsed something and ironic as if it were coincidental. The most misused word is the arena of relaxation is meditation. Meditation is a mental practice that is used for the sole purpose of opening the mind and finding a peaceful consciousness. However, the Western World uses the term to suggest that it is a means by which to contemplate on a subject or term. We say things like, ‘I need to meditate on that’ when we really mean think about it.
One of the most taught meditations is Transcendental Meditations. I have practiced this for the last 7 years. The practice is simply to allow you to experience a silence and an awareness of pure thoughts. In Transcendental Meditation we focus on a Sanskrit word or mantra. TM takes no special skills or even incredible mind control in the very beginning. You simply practice this for 15 to 20 minutes daily and you will see a dramatic decrease in your levels of stress. Also, for us creative types, TM is a great way to find inspiration simply by quieting all our extraneous thoughts. Granted, you do not contemplate clarity. It comes to you.
Here is the quick and dirty directions to Transcendental Meditation:
1. Find a comfortable place where you will not be disturbed for at least 20 minutes.
2. Turn off your cell phones and any other distractions.
3. Sit with your feet on the ground and hands held loosely in your lap.
4. You can attempt a simple lotus position but that limits how, when and where you can practice.
5. Pick a mantra which to repeat. Mantras are sounds or words that vibrate and can create change. The following is a teeny list of common mantras and their meanings:
- Hare Krishna, Hare Krishna, Krishna, Krishna, Hare, Hare, Hare Rama, Hare Rama, Rama, Rama, Hare Hare = Worship Krishna, Worship Rama (To be clear, Hinduism believes in One God with many aspects. Krishna and Rama are just sides of God. Krishna is the beauty and Ecstasy of God while Rama is God’s perfection and ideal. Hare is the extreme pleasure of the Lord.)
- Om Namah Shivaya= This mantra has many meanings including being the 5 elements and relating to the first 5 chakras.
- Om Gam Ganapataye Namaha= I placed this one in the list because I have been saying it a lot recently. The mantra is an homage to Lord Ganesh (The Elephant God). He is the remover of all obstacles. When we begin to mantra, this is a great way to start so we get out of our own way.
- Om Sri Ram, Jaya Ram, Jaya Jaya Ram= This is the mantra I have chanted for years. I even had it tattooed on me to remind me that this is where my center is. Simply, this mantra reminds you that God is victorious.
- Eknath Easwaren, a brilliant philosopher, spiritual thinker and incredible human being, suggests that any word that resonates with you spiritually can work like Jesus, Earth, Yahweh, Love.
6. All you need to do is close your eyes and repeat the mantra for 15 to 20 minutes. The first few times may be weird and you may think that the time is up long before it really is. Time tends to dilate in meditation so what you believe is an hour is really 10 minutes.
To be clear, this is not an attempt to convert or change anyone’s belief system. Expanding your mind and becoming centered in pure thought is a practice and religion or belief system can handle.
Finding your gooey center is a path worth taking.
The article is not about Transcendental Meditation. TM is practiced in different way. Don't say you describe TM here. It's not true.
But thanks for your interest in TM.
I am sympathetic to practitioners of Transcendental Meditation (TM) wanting to share their good experiences, including the enhancement of personal relationships, with the world. But attempting to teach TM when one has not been trained as a teacher is a recipe for disaster! Readers attempting to follow your instructions will be lucky just to have no results. At worst, they could develop headaches or other negative side effects. Brief instructions just do not work. They mix with whatever ideas the student brings, and the result is necessarily unknown. Here is an example, from this article: "In Transcendental Meditation we focus on a Sanskrit word or mantra." This is misleading. It implies that we focus the mind and keep the mind focused. It implies something very unnatural: forcing the mind to stay at one idea or sound, rather than following its natural tendency, which is to think thought after thought after thought. I hope that readers will not try these instructions, well-meaning though they may be. I hope that readers will go to the source: the websites of the organizations that teach transcending. For Transcendental Meditation (TM), please visit www.tm.org. For Natural Stress Relief (NSR), please visit www.nsrusa.org. I wish you and your readers the best in life. The best will come through learning how to practice transcending correctly. David Spector, President, Natural Stress Relief/USA
@david_NSR David, we appreciate the comment but our purpose is to inform not to teach. Anyone who thinks they can learn a transformational way of being in a blog post believes in Magic Beans. If you wanted to exchange a link it would have been more appropriate to write us an email instead of a scolding. We are always open to create relationships with people in the healing arts. Perhaps we can start over again because first impressions were strained. Namaste.